August 24, 2012

Back to Le Grinde!

I am counting down my last days of freedom leave and I will return to work after Labor Day.  While the circumstances behind my exodus from the work world really sucked, it gave me a lot of perspective on my life and things in general.

What I have decided is I will continue to pursue higher education for my future and I will be looking into starting Grad school within the next few months. I am studying to complete my PMP certification and I will pass that darn test soon.  I will no longer allow others to interrupt my flow, my game, or as Emperor Cuzco called it my "Groove".  I am important if to no one else other than me and I matter!  I choose to be happy and I will not compromise my happiness for other people.

I have been kicking around some other ideas in my head that relate to some of the passions I dropped.  I want to start sewing again so I will break out the old sewing machine and get busy with the needle and thread.  I also love to cook!  I especially love food with flavors and spices.  I am a Diva and Divas don't like the mundane so my cooking incorporates flavor and fusion.  I love to create meals that come from the cuisine of other countries like India, and the Caribbean, so I will be looking to create healthy meals and recipes for the family that blend fusion with flavor.  I will also be looking into taking a class in painting as I love working with color and I will get back to my scrapbooking and photography habit.  Lastly, I will be back in the gym 4-5 days a week with my newly found energy. I would appreciate your encourage on that part -- go Faith, go!!  Go!  Go!! Go!!!  Throw me some pom pons over her!

One idea that has stuck out in my mind for years and I never acted on it because I never thought I knew how or never had the resources is to start my own line of clothing.  I think Big Girls and Boys are still under-represented in their selection of clothing.  Clothes are either really expensive or really cheap looking and they don't often fit correctly.  Then, there are those clothes that just because they come in your size, you really shouldn't wear them!  You know who you are!  I think we need to start with a line of basics including underwear, shoes, and ready-to-wear garments.  Next, there needs to be a line of suits specifically for the plus size woman.  When I go shopping, I rarely see suits in some of the plus size chain stores.  Plus size woman need suits!  We go on job interviews and dress up too, ya'll!  I look dayum good in a suit!  I think all of these needs could be met by me, I want to find the right people and designers and put everything together.

If you have any ideas or leads for me, please email me at  I would love to speak with you.  Leave a comment if you are interested in encouraging me.  I think we should do a Diva Challenge and get all of the divas/divos together to commit to a weightloss/exercise challenge.  I am going to think about it, and I will announce the challenge next week.  Stay tuned, my lovelies, for more news!


August 21, 2012

Life apres WLS - Addressing Happiness

In search of happiness!
Happiness, or the pursuit thereof, is one topic that gets much attention from the media, self-help gurus, and even Twitter Philosophers, such as myself!  I think a lot of people miss the boat on what happiness is and how to really achieve it, though.  From what I know, happiness, true happiness, is the joy you can get from seeing others happy.  It is the "aha!" moment that you have when you have finally figured out the solution to the riddle in your life.  It is the joy you feel when you have come out of darkness and into the new "light" in your life. 

So many of us perceive happiness, myself included, and I can only talk about this subject after having gone through it myself, as "stuff".  "Stuff", as in how much I can buy or how much I can eat, or how much I can hoard, or how frugal I can be.  Stuff in this universe gets piled up higher and higher, but it brings no more happiness to the recipient as another grain of sand on the beach.  So you should be asking, "where do I find happiness then"?

Happiness is not something that is outside of our reaches, but it is something that is within each of us. We are born with innate happiness, but we forget what it is like through our use of fear, worry, and sadness.  Our happiness is not dependent upon other people and how they see us, but rather on how we see ourselves.  Did that shock you, yet?  That right there took me forever to understand!  I don't depend on others to make me happy, but I make my own happiness right here and right now.

Start by deciding that you want to be happy and take great care to start to smile a little more.  If someone asks you how you're doing, you know they are only being polite, and they really don't want to know that you're drowning in bills, or that you really don't feel well.  All they want you to do is to acknowledge your being in their lives for that moment. 

Find some small way to make yourself happy like walking an extra lap, or finishing the project you've had overdue, or even giving the puppy a bath.  Or find happiness in helping someone else. Volunteer with the Girl Scouts, The Links, your sorority or fraternity, and do something for someone else.  Go out there and mentor someone.  Show someone else the goodness in your life through the works that you do.  It is through our works that we achieve true happiness.

August 20, 2012

Iron Quest - The Final Day

Well Divas and Divos,

I had my last iron infusion today.  I can't say that I will miss the ol' Iron, but I can say that I do feel a little more energetic and strong.  Yesterday, I noticed that even from walking at the mall and carrying packages, I wasn't tired or sore.  Imagine that???

After my infusion, the nurse told me I may not feel the overall effects of the iron for another six weeks.  I told her I typically felt tired right after the infusion, and before she came by to remove the IV, she caught me catnapping. After I was all done, I have to admit that I felt pretty good.

So where does this leave me now?  I have a follow-up with the hematologist in six weeks, and a follow-up with my Bariatric surgeon in two weeks.  I also have to see the Gastroenterologist for a follow-up as well.  At this point, though, I have to concentrate on three things, eating iron rich foods, taking my vitamin supplements, and exercise.  I feel like I can do it too! For the first time in years, and did I say years, I feel like I can go to the gym and work out the way I should.  I am happy for the extra energy.  The GI doctor wanted me to concentrate on eating "clean" -- no refined carbs, sodas (I don't drink those anymore anyway), no junk foods, plenty of water, fresh fruits and veggies, lean meats, etc, and lots of exercise.  He also mentioned something about looking for another job in order to find my sanity again.

All of these things I am certain I can do, but I need your help and support.  I need you to help keep me motivated and accountable for what I need to do. Please leave me a comment to let me know if you will be willing to cheer me on in my new "journey" toward a healthier and less stressful lifestyle.  Leave me a message and let me know you following me and supporting my journey and that I can count on you for your encouragement me.  Let me know you'll be there!