January 13, 2011

Traits of a WLS Winner by Katie Jay

by Katie Jay, MSW, Certified Wellness Coach
Director, National Association for Weight Loss Surgery
www.nawls.com


While nearly everyone who has WLS achieves some measure of success, some people do much better than others -- and not just in the measure of their weight.   Winning at WLS is not a size, it's a whole state of being.  Winning at WLS means achieving a weight that creates the opportunity for you to live a full, healthy, and satisfying life -- and then getting out there and living it. So what do WLS winners do?  


Winners Manage Their Focus

WLS winners tend to have a structure to their lives so that they almost always know what they are really supposed to be doing.
They don't leave things to chance. They stay focused on their goal to be healthy and let that shape their lives.

They learn time management and schedule in their WLS needs. They focus on what is important (buying vitamins if they have run out) rather than on what the world thinks is important (baking cupcakes for a party).

Winners Design a Plan that Fits Their Life

Winners learn how to shape a life that works for them. They figure out where they are likely to struggle and build in strategies to minimize their troubles in those areas.

They use timers, always keep protein supplements in their car, keep food out of sight so they don't snack, or keep a case of water in their trunk -- whatever will work for them.

Winners Use Resources to Help Them

Winners are information seekers. They don't assume that what they were taught about WLS at one point in time is sufficient information. They continue to learn, seek help, and find tools that will keep them on track.

They understand that they may need help to go from being at goal weight to being happy and comfortable with their new life.

Are You Reluctant to Win?

Some people are very uncomfortable with winning. So, they resist it. They struggle with the last 20 pounds to avoid being at goal.
 
Of course, they don't necessarily know they're doing this. Not doing your best is a form of self defense. If you don't try hard, you protect your ego from the experience of trying hard and failing -- a scary proposition.

Value the Pain of Losing

Anyone who struggles with weight will fail from time to time. But that doesn't mean you will fail in the long run. By trying your best, even if you experience some failure from time to time, you will ultimately have a more meaningful life.  By getting comfortable with failing, and then trying again, you will eventually win.

Accept that Winning Can Be Confusing and Uncomfortable

Winning brings on a whole new set of uncomfortable feelings. Maybe you don't want to cause others to feel like losers as they compare themselves to you. Maybe you don't like the attention winning brings. Whatever the discomfort, win anyway. You will learn to tolerate success. Just give it time.

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