October 27, 2010

Being Fat and Other People's Opinions

I have been fat, obese, and morbidly obese for a large part of my life.  I have had to put up with people's comments, their taunts, and their rants on how "I" should be more healthy, or how could "I" let myself get this way, or even being laughed at when passing by a group of people.  I've felt bad about my body image for as long as I can remember, and I'm 45 years old, so it's been a long, long time.  I know what I have been up against:  pressure to be thin, poor self-image, competition, depression, and now, arthritis and joint pain.

I just finished reading a post by a blogger for Marie Claire, and I am just completely deflated. This woman remarked on an episode of "Mark and Mollie" where she apparently was turned off by the fact that two fat people were making out.  She went on to qualify his remarks by saying she was very turned off by seeing a morbidly obese person just walk across the room.  She then stated that if that person wanted to be thin, it was his/her choice -- just push away from the table.  She also compared being fat with being an alcoholic or heroine addict in that he would hate seeing some sloppy drunk or another person strung out on drugs.  I think her comments are sad, but they tend to represent the opinions of many people in our society.  Everyone values being thin and has poor self-image and this if continuously perpetuated in our society through print and television advertising, movies, etc.  

Some of her comments, I get it... but I don't appreciate her comments in a world-wide publication that only perpetuate the poor self image that women and men have of themselves.  This is really a sad state of affairs when people use this bandwagon mentality to lash out at a group of people who pay taxes, and participate in society, but as second-class citizens.  I am one of those people, and I work every day, and try to live a healthy lifestyle.  Because of one thing or another, I haven't been successful in losing weight, but I have tried.  I've had my ups and downs with this rollercoaster ride and when I decided to have Weight Loss Surgery, for me, it was really my last alternative.  I don't want to be sick; I don't want to die from a co-morbidity.  But I also don't want to hear that I am less than human because I am overweight and don't live up to someone's expectations.  

I'm getting off my soapbox now, and putting away my little picket sign, but I just thought I had to share this with you.  Here's the link to the original story.  http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/overweight-couples-on-television?click=main_sr.  I really hope that you ready the article and weigh in on the subject.